Looking For Your Soul Mate

“Looking for your soul mate”
By Evangelist Bill Carter
(a preview of the book)
This book, “Looking for your soul mate”; was written from years of studying and open discussion questions in our singles ministry programs, “IT’S OK TO BE SINGLE”; as well as my own mistakes. This heart searching book is design to make you think about your past in order to help you to your future! This workbook will allow you to become transparent from the mistakes you have made in trying to build a relationship. Each subject will make you think how to become a better person, build trust, and become friends first. This will allow you to grow in love and to have a complete relationship.

Here are the subjects of “LOOKING FOR YOUR SOUL MATE”:
Dating verses courtship * How to find your soul mate * Allow me to give you some verse on marriage * Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers * Marriage Matters * You as a man or woman; a companion * Love * Love can and will change people * You are on trial for love * Living together versus marriage * Friendship or love * Change for a better relationship * Imagination relationship * Expectation / Imagination * Our expectations of people * Don’t mess up someone’s life * Bad habits * Beware of one’s body language * Signs to look for before you enter into another bad relationship * So involved you don’t see the truth *Controlling your tongue * Easily offended * Dealing with your anger * Never love anyone more than God * Relationship commitment * Keeping your commitment * Age group * Predators that want to be married * Companionship * Asking someone out on a date * What causes a divorce *
“LOOKING FOR YOUR SOUL MATE”, was written as a workbook and has only 98 pages. Each subject gives you a chance to answer questions to make you think about your past and help you to your future. Some subjects allow you to make notations about yourself and the subject. In many ways, this is a self help book. Most single adult just rush into a relationship and never build trust or friendship in order to overcome their unique differences.
Here are two examples of behaviors we see in people that say they are dating; “I love (him or her)” and they make this statement in two to four weeks. Then by four to eight weeks, they are saying they hate that person. So where was the love? It was only in expectation and in the rim of imagination, then one if not both of them are heartbroken. Why, they never built trust or friendship and never built a foundation to support a relationship to see if it could work out.

Here is a view of one subject:
CHANGING FOR A BETTER RELATIONSHIP

A great relationship is worth any and all changes that come from either companion. To have a real loving and caring relationship you must grow. To grow means change; changes are needed in a real loving and caring relationship. Companions shouldn’t have to be asked to change. Again, changes take time. If your partner points out something, take a notice of what they say. It does take a lot of effort to change. I agree that one must be able to change oneself. Let your companion change his or her self. This will make the relationship stronger.

If you are not willing to change, why have a relationship? Time is a real factor when it comes to new changes. Two people (companions) must realize that they will have real differences. This is true about all relationships. This rule applies to all new companions. Your relationship is worth all the work it takes to keep a relationship alive.

Work through your differences,
then watch love grow
To last a lifetime!

Changing for a greater relationship starts with you!
If you are dating someone who lives by this next statement;
“It’s my way or the highway”! Get rid of them!

You don’t want someone who isn’t willing to change to make the relationship greater! You don’t need a relationship with someone who talks foolishly. Don’t waste your time! When a person will not change for the better of a relationship, just move on and find a greater person! Believe me, there are single adults looking to find a loving companion!

Remember that change is not about what’s right or wrong.
It’s about what is right in creating a great team or companionship!
It’s also about you as a teammate or a companion!

Rewards in one’s life
Are determined
By the problems HE OR SHE solve

Proverbs 1:5
A wise man (or woman) will hear, and will increase learning;
and a man (or woman) of understanding
shall attain unto wise counsels.

What areas do you think you have to change: ______________________________________________________________________________
1: Do you believe you will have to change in order to have a better relationship?
a: disagree
b: strongly disagree
c: agree
d: strongly agree

2: A great relationship is worth any and all changes.
a: disagree
b: strongly disagree
c: agree
d: strongly agree

3: To grow we must change both mentally and spiritually. Does this involve God’s plan for you?
a: disagree
b: strongly disagree
c: agree
d: strongly agree

4: If love can change a person, we should allow our companion to change themselves?
a: disagree
b: strongly disagree
c: agree
d: strongly agree

5: How much time is required to change someone’s bad habit or issues?
a: that depends on what it is
b: that depends on the level of addiction
c: depends one’s motivation level
d: all the above
6: If you are not willing to change for the better of a relationship, should you involve someone in a relationship?
a: yes b: no
7: Concerning your answer to question six, why did you choose yes or no?
____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
8: Two people (companions) must realize that they will have real differences. This is true about all relationships.
a: true b: false
9: Is your relationship worth all the work it takes to keep a relationship alive.
a: disagree
b: strongly disagree
c: agree
d: strongly agree
10: In your own words, what do you think about Proverbs 1:5: ___________________________

YOUR NOTES: __________________________________________________________________

So, I invite you to alter your life- style and become motivated in seeking a soul mate; verses the way you were dating. This book will give you a chance to heal your past and give you a God promised relationship in building an opportunity of a lifetime. My question to you is, are you going to keep living the way you have and expect something different to take place; or, are you going to build a new life that places you on a foundation of love that grows and understands? Without God or a Christian life-style what do you expect out of a relationship?

By: Evangelist Bill Carter