The Quest for Marriage

Now that we were finally engaged, the last thing we were able to do was relax. This is a little like any sport during the post-season: the further you go, the higher the pressure. When dating/courting, there is the pressure to handle the transition from being single, plus being able to endure personal growth. The good news is that you can enjoy the fun of growing closer to someone of the opposite sex and going out on dates.
When it comes to the engagement period, a lot of those “fun” times are going to fly right out the window! Chances are that this period won’t be very long, nor should it be. There are many couples in America who will plan the wedding for one to two years after the proposal. I guess that if they’re already living and sleeping together, there’s no need to rush.
With people like us, who have been abstinent, a long wait doesn’t sound like fun! It’s one thing to wait until marriage. But there’s absolutely no reason to delay the wedding unnecessarily! Allow me to break the news: you will NOT score any kind of “holy brownie points” with God for taking all the time in the world to plan the wedding! God loves marriage, which was created by Him (meaning it is good!). He desires for you to get married and partake of all the benefits!
In my personal opinion, unnecessary delays can do more harm than good with purity. Guys have now enjoyed feeling the woman’s physical affections. When a guy is not used to receiving this for so many years… get the idea? If not, imagine a lion, a carnivore, which has had to live on only vegetables for a very long time. At least there was no meat around, making it easier to handle. But now the smell of meat is everywhere!
The ladies shouldn’t start feeling all high and mighty, because it’s not much easier on their side. After having a man wooing her, being affectionate, and telling her how much he loves her, somebody’s heart has certainly been melting inside! Her emotions are spiraling off the charts! Then suddenly this amazing man gets down on one knee wanting to spend the rest of his life with her? Yeah… it’s pretty safe to say she’ll be filled with more emotional excitement then she’ll know what to do with. Heck, women get overly excited when they hear about another woman who got engaged! Being so emotionally stimulated, guess what women will be thinking about more? How about I give a clue: It is a one syllable word that ends with “x” and starts with “s.”
So please do yourself and your fiancé a favor… get planning and only take the time necessary to put the wedding together. The good news is that if you have been abstinent and have built properly in other areas, the engagement doesn’t have to be so long since your foundation is already established.