In Marriage and Divorce

It was like an earthquake…a 9.0. You know - the kind that keeps rolling and violently crumbling the foundations of everything familiar and comfortable in your life right before your very eyes. The devastating moment seems to last a lifetime. You are helplessly paralyzed as you get caught up in the fear and emotion of this powerful force. Divorce can be like that earthquake – and when it’s over all you see is destruction everywhere and nothing is familiar anymore - or comfortable. You have been drained of all that you loved.

It is in the aftermath of this destruction and from a perspective you might otherwise have never experienced that you come to see the beauty, value and simple truths of the things you took for granted - things that could have mitigated some of the damage or helped you avoid it all together. Prayer is one of those things. Prayer has substance and it is dynamic.

Prayer is not just a simple shout out to an invisible God or projecting magical thoughts into the great unknown. It is not necessarily polite or reserved. It is about sharing and respect for the Truth and your emotions. It is sitting down with God – hopefully, together with your husband or wife and tabling everything you think is real. It begins with respect for the Power and God who can do all things for you that you cannot do for yourself. It is a spiritual dialogue with questions and pleas and above all else - answers.

Prayer should be entered into with great expectation. It is about aligning ourselves and our circumstances with the infinite power of the God of Everything Real. It is about the things we humans think and feel, fear and desire. It is being aware and confident, feeling the Spirit of God living in you – not out there somewhere. It is not to be entered into weakly and passively – it is deep emotion, a time for a divine conversation, cleansing the self of everything that hinders the flow of God and love. It is pure spiritual intimacy. It is a time to be humble as we wait faithfully for our answers.

God listens to truthful prayers. Yell at him if you are mad at him and tell him why you think your anger is righteous! It is amazing how quickly you will begin to see more clearly. Talk to him as if He was the person who loves, cares and provides for all your needs. That is who He says He is.

If you do not believe in him tell him your reasons and ask for clarification. If you do believe in him profess that belief – let him know you love him. Express your gratitude - praise him without reserve. Pour every drop of yourself out on him – He may refill you double or even a hundred-fold. Tell him what you need and your plans to get it or simply that you have no plan. If you’ve been less than you should be, admit that too. Be honest! A hindered soul can be purified. The unhindered can experience miracles.