Surviving Singleness

Singles, have you been struggling with your singleness? Are you frustrated with how people and the media view and depict single people? Why do they make it seem like something is wrong with you for being single? The entertainment world and social media portray a negative image of how singles are supposed to carry themselves. Let me see … Single people are supposed to be promiscuous party animals, desperate people with personal issues and high expectations, or the type willing to steal others’ mates. Some singles do get involved with or are tempted by others who are in relationships for many reasons, but I believe it is wrong to get involved with someone who is already involved. The perceptions and expectations of singles are insane! No wonder some singles rush into relationships and those relationships end up being unhealthy or short-lived. Perhaps the saddest are the singles who bounce from one person to the next to fulfill their selfish needs while hurting other singles (no judgment—this is just reality). Unfortunately, more singles than many realize are struggling with emotional hurt. I hope this book will bring some healing and guidance to all singles who want to heal their hurt and eventually enter healthy relationships. Everyone deserves to be happy. I am not an expert on relationships, but I share my experiences here to help others find healing and peace. As a single person for over nineteen years (as of 2020), I decided to write this book to help single people know that they are not alone and that they can attain peace and experience joy. In this book, I will define what it means to be single and provide strategies for singles to find happiness and peace, avoid pitfalls, and create standards for their future mates. I will have some real talks with them, and encourage them to stand their ground and ignore others’ and society’s expectations of singlehood. I’m not an expert; I’m a single person who has found peace and joy in my singleness. I am happily single and have reached a level of peace where I am fine with whatever the future holds for me. I do want to remarry; I want to be in love with and marry the right person for the right reasons, not just be in a relationship. I do not want to lose my peace because of constant frustration with infidelity, rudeness, or disrespect. I want to be with someone who cares enough about me to not disrespect me or allow anyone else to do so. I want someone who is willing to work on our relationship as much as I am and do his best to work through the good and bad times. Our love for and relationship with God will keep us grounded. I want someone who will not give up on us just because things get challenging. Relationships are not easy; they require work, dedication, and a commitment to sticking around and making them work. Challenges are not excuses to cheat or throw in the towel; they are opportunities to grow and strengthen each other. Unfortunately, society tells us we should give up, fall out of love, and move on to the next person, but what society tells us to do is not always right.