relationality

Relationships are at the heart of who we are. Lying beneath the manifestation of our personalities is something much more deeply aligned to who we really are… it is the truth of our existence; it is what I call our RELATIONALITY. This is the image of God bearing deep down within us. It is more than who we can become; it is the very essence of who we already are.
I have come to learn that we have spent our entire lives, and many will continue to do so, looking for "revelation" not realizing that relationship is the revelation. What else is there for God to reveal to us? How to cast out devils? How to become a millionaire? How to have a booming ministry or business? We have really gotten it twisted and I will be the first to say that I was caught up in the twist. Even as I decline in my typing tone (I tend to get loud and excited), I say that I hang my hat on the fact that what we all have been searching for, depressed about not finding, confused in our identity concerning, and disappointed in life about, has been simple. We have had on blinders to a revelation that would heal our souls... Relationship.
Oddly, people are upset because it is all that I talk about most days. They say that I am wounded. They say that I must have something broken. They contend that I must be in love. They swear that I must be suffering relational lost or that I am just plain emotional and crazy. Well, let the public record show that they are right, in a sense. I have seen something concerning life that has me in all those states and what hurts the most is that each of us touches it every day but refuse to vulnerably acknowledge it.
I have lost some great people in my life, not because they, nor I were horrible people, but because we shut our eyes to the revelation. Somewhere, we thought maybe it was just a great addition to life, instead of being the very meaning of life. In a recent conversation with my “ride or die” best friend, Tiffany Cooper, she stated that, “as a circle of friends, the purpose of our relationship had not changed; we just don’t walk in it as we should.” So often, we thought it would be nice to have someone walk alongside us as we pursued our dreams, built the business, advanced in the higher learning, made the money, became the America’s next top celebrity, etc., as if those things were our primary purpose. I have come to know that those were the additions to life instead of the meanings and purposes for life. In some sense, for many people, those have become the distractions to life. All along, we have all been touching, tasting, and even taunting our purpose and dishonoring it by calling it something good to have along the journey. We failed to realize that it was, and is, the journey... the other things are just additions and small spices added. I feel we need to push reset and start from the beginning. SMH (shaking my head). I added the SMH for no real reason other than wanting to incorporate a little millennial text talk. LOL.
I grieve deeply because the revelation has been given, but we are "still looking." We have determined that there must be more. So, we have been scrambling trying to find the meaning of life, what our true identity is, what we are "called" to do in life, what city to live in, etc. when all along, what we have been searching for, has been right in our reach. Instead of seizing it, we've traveled another road for self-actualization, self-esteem, even self-right-ness. It is a deception that we are all guilty of at some point in our lives. We have settled for a pursuit of happiness when all along our soul has longed for wholeness.
In our friendships, we have sought to push our own agenda instead of being suitable to help the others around us, or even deeper, to collaboratively pursue a common agenda... an agenda that counts, that lasts, and transcends all; that agenda is LOVE. But I suppose somewhere other factors became more important. Other entities changed the connections.
I suppose a question remains; will we keep looking for our own sense of worth, our own sense of completion and a revelation that in all actuality stares us in the face? I am inclined to believe that this revelation has been given to us not as something we must look hard to find. God in all His greatness never hid the Tree of Life from us, although the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil was in the midst of the garden. Do not become put-off with the tree references. I am aware that many reading this are not believers in that story; the point of reference is for picture painting purposes; not doctrine.
Anywho, the Revelation of Relationship has been present all along and actually was a present (gift), but we were distracted, deceived and confused by the fruit of the knowledge tree because they looked good for food – after all, the fruit from that tree would make us “like God,” – as if we already weren’t like Him…. RELATIONAL.

This is a spiritual and biological reality. One in which we often will sadly abandon in the name of growth.