A Helper Suitable

To say 2018 was a memorable time and season in my life would be an understatement. As the year began, I was in one emotional state of mind, and as it ended, I was in another. My effort to withdraw from the things that seared my soul also caused me to change my geographical location. I could only describe my thoughts and feelings as a roller-coaster ride that threatened to derail everything I believed in. They forced me to make drastic changes—steps that led to the beginning of my transitional journey toward health and wholeness.
We can view change as good or bad based on our perspective. From my point of view, you can use a period of change as time to examine where you are and how you got there. You can decide whether you want to continue in that vein or embrace something different. It all depends on how comfortable you are in your present state and where you see yourself in the future. The most important thing to remember at those times is that whatever adjustments are being considered, they should line up with what God wants for you. His plan is always perfect.
So at the time of the writing of this book, I was in transit, leaving the place I’d called home for twenty-two years. I’d also taken a self-imposed sabbatical from the relationship I had been a willing card-carrying member of for more than two decades. To be completely honest, my feelings were mixed, but I knew that I’d made the right decision. Knowing this didn’t help though because many days my heart threatened to break under feelings of extreme loss.
It took almost a year spent in prayer, personal work, and service to others and to God to get where I am. But thank God that today I am in a better place both spiritually and emotionally. Relationally, it’s not where I expected to be at this point in my life. I had dreams and visions of my relationship getting better and more fulfilling as the years flew by. On many levels feelings of sore disappointment filled my days, but I’ve always been a firm believer that “…all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28 KJV).
As women, sometimes we take a considerable amount of time to figure out who we really are and where we want to go. Sometimes all it takes is a word of encouragement from someone who is more experienced to get us on the right path. My path crossed with powerful women of God. I’ve been nurtured and inspired by them too. That’s why I am here. I want to help you. Sister friend, I believe that taking a walk with me down lanes filled with memories of trials and errors as well as failures and successes will go a long way in helping you navigate your own path.
I am still in the process of getting it right, but this book is my effort to share with you what I’ve learned thus far about being “A Helper Suitable: Becoming that Good Thing Every Man Needs.” Although I’ve written it from a Christian woman’s perspective, I believe that anyone can draw wisdom from its pages.
I hope that it will motivate you to share its contents with a friend. It does not matter whether she is a seasoned lady, middle-aged woman, a young and single lady, a soon-to-be-wed woman, a newlywed friend, or sister. There is always some little nugget waiting to be unearthed from another person’s experiences. I can humbly say that I believe this book can offer you and her some words of advice and encouragement wherever you are in life.